About Choosing Herself

I’m Jody Delichte.

I’ve spent most of my life trying to figure out how to choose myself without feeling guilty about it.

From the outside, my life probably looked brave. I’ve left relationships and jobs that didn’t fit, lived and worked on four continents, completed an MSc in Applied Positive Psychology and a PhD researching identity, and eventually built a life on a finca in Spain with my husband Chris and our dog Bella.

What people didn’t always see was the internal battle underneath it all. The overthinking. The people-pleasing. The fear of disappointing others. The constant tension between what I wanted and what felt acceptable.

Choosing Herself grew out of that experience.

This is a space for women who are tired of living according to expectations. Women who have spent years being capable, responsible, accommodating, and needed, and are starting to wonder what they actually want for themselves.

Every Thursday, I share stories and reflections about self-trust, identity, relationships, work, reinvention, and the ongoing process of building a life that feels like your own.

I don’t have it all figured out. I’m still living it too.

But I’ve learned that wanting something matters. That exhaustion can be information. That resentment usually tells the truth long before words do. And that becoming yourself is less dramatic than people think. It often starts with very small moments of honesty.

If any of that sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.